And there lies half the problem now days. I certainly never take the lounges and the access for granted. It is a privilege
Lounge access is not a privilege.
It is a benefit which Qantas and other airlines offer some passengers for their own commercial reasons.
We all pay for that access. Whether we pay through an upfront membership fee, through a ticket in a premium cabin, or through a significant investment in loyalty which earns us frequent flyer status.
If we are totally honest everyone else who flies Qantas probably contributes towards the cost of our lounge access as well.
A lounge pass might be "free" but Qantas still issues them for various commercial reasons.
In fact, most lounge passes are "bought" or "earned" through loyalty to other brands as part of a promotional partnership with Qantas and/or Qantas Frequent Flyer.
By way of contrast, access to the Chairman's Lounge is most definitely a privilege.
It can't be earned or bought, it is only offered by invitation, and only the famous, rich or powerful are invited.
It can, therefore, be given or taken at whim, without recourse.
Lounge access, on the other hand, is subject to the rules of the programme which bind both parties.
If we start thinking of lounge access as a "privilege" then that can only encourage the sort of smug, sneering, superior attitude which this poor woman encountered.
However I have to say I have never encountered unfriendly staff in any QF lounge.
(I wish I could say the same about baggage services.)
But then I have never been in a position to have my lounge access rights questioned.