Personally i think the real "story" here is the contradictory information given by QF which leads to confusion and expectations not met. Weather QFF has a policy like VA or not is kind of moot, they should be consistent to whatever their policy IS - it's then up to the punters to vote with their dollars.
I absolutely agree putting a PAID QP membership on hold is very different to a membership status gained through activity. If you can't use a service you have paid for (Qantas Club) then I see a reasonable grounds to request a years hold given circumstances such as family issues/new parent, sickness etc. You've paid up front for a service you can't use. Now I can also see an argument for refusing such a request ("you paid for it. it's not our fault you can't use it") but I think it makes more sense to offer an extention or whatever. However elite status is (usually

) not paid for up front, but earned. I see this as different.
Seems to me a reasonable compromise would be to wait till the end of the status year, or near the end, and call QFF up and cite *forward bookings* as a reason to renew - if you could say show forward bookings worth ~100 SC or something as "proof" of a return to work and intent to renew status with QF, then it's a much easier propisition for QF to say "OK, we'll continue the Gold status given booked activity".. but to ask for it because "well, I might go back to work and travel with QF or not" doesn't seem enough to go on.
I'd also agree with the previous comments re the "3 year average" - perhaps this customer just doesn't add up per QFF's metrics (that sounds harsh, sorry).
I do think it's a bit much to declare that the service is "terrible" based on expecting or wanting an exception to be granted. Yes, all cases are individual, but QF is acting within the terms of their program and it's absolutely up to them how they proceed.
As it happens 10 years back I was top tier (WP equivalent) with two carriers, and for medical reasons had to be grounded for 5 years. I lost all status (of course) and so on. I never once thought to contact a carrier and say OK I'm back now can I have my status back? I simply have earned it again and am very happy to be back travelling the world and enjoying life.
At the end of the day status and its perks are nice and all, but if you don't have it due to not earning it it's hardly the end of the world.
Just my 2 cents. *flame proof suit on*