General Medical issues thread

[Seat0B]

Oh dear @Seat0B , what a very stressful time you are going through and with you unwell yourself.

A friend went through similar and was getting the run around with the nursing homes
She engaged a broker?
Who seemed to able to get insider information for vacancies. The situation was solved quickly and far less stressful for all concerned.

Maybe make some initial enquiries with a broker, while waiting to see what the GP can do.

Thinking of you and sending hugs

Thanks @ellen10. I have already made contact with an aged care placement consultant who I feel confident may be able to help us and also harnessed the GP who thought he might be able to achieve something.

 

[Seat0B]

So approx 1.2 million at a minimum is needed to fund Nh placement if the client is fully fee paying.

Mum is on a part age pension, so will not be fully fee paying, which is something.

 

[drron]

Perhaps just a visit to the GP for some assistance. Maybe reactive depression and uncertainty about the future has collided for her. She might just need some medical help and time. She's such a trooper that hopefully this too shall pass.

Dealing with ageing. We are well past that now, for over 10 years for all parents. Mum was very proactive and wanted to get into appropriate care for her issues at all the various stages which made everything easy. It's likely my sons having a battle getting me into one eventually.

When Dad was terminal with cancer he'd been treated at a private hospital. He clearly was in final stages but just 10 days into hospital the admin person started talking with mum, who was in no fit state, that she'd have to move dad into advanced care somewhere, basically anywhere but where he currently was. MrP and I had a solid talk with that admin person, and told them never to discuss anything like this with my mother again, that he would stay put until his private health cover did run out (another couple of weeks) and that we would cover the cost after that. He was already on morph drips and could not be discharged. Of course our intuition was right, he had passed within the week. But damn that bloody private hospital for trying this on my mum. It eventually went into receivership a decade later. I cheered.

She sees the GP regularly. Is on antidepressants. I am at Witt’s end I am going to try taking her out for drives when I get my wheelchair hopefully by the end of the week.

 

[Quickstatus]

when I get my wheelchair hopefully by the end of the week.

Which one did you get?

 

[tgh]

The content of this thread atm is all at once , sombre to the point of avoidance and yet prescribed reading.
Howsoever it happens, most of us here will face end of life decisions in the next decade or two and it is not a pleasant task.

The reality of declining competence with age is a challenge for which we are mostly untrained and unprepared ; historically belief and belief structures
provided comfort and hope at this time.
Belief , in a human group sense ( the flock) , has been socially engineered to become what seems to be essentially individual self care , the me generation.

It seems that the applied family and social support structures for the aged in today's world is generally at odds with a recipient's perception of the meaning and value of life.

There are a lot of minutes , hours, days, and months from the beginning of the end to completion.
I have recently observed such an occasion and found a cold lonely and flawed process for the recipient
Society should do better.

herewith endeth the sermon