Frequent travel & relationships

[blueflamenco]

I watched Up in the Air again last night which got me thinking about travel and relationships.

Do you think frequent travel increases the likelihood that one will be unfaithful?

I am interested in peoples thoughts!

 

[drron]

I watched Up in the Air again last night which got me thinking about travel and relationships.

Do you think frequent travel increases the likelihood that one will be unfaithful?

I am interested in peoples thoughts!

Not when Mrsdrron is always beside me:!:

 

[Mal]

Quite simply, I think a person who is unfaithful while travelling is also the type who would be unfaithful at home (and come up with other excuses for their missing time).

 

[JohnK]

Do you think frequent travel increases the likelihood that one will be unfaithful?

Depends where they travel. I worked with people in SE Asia who were angels at home but once let loose in the party environment they became totally different.

Not saying that is normal but simply my observation.

 

[blueflamenco]

Quite simply, I think a person who is unfaithful while travelling is also the type who would be unfaithful at home (and come up with other excuses for their missing time).

I think your right however it seems that there may be more temptation and opportunity when travelling as opposed to when one is home.

But that is in no way an excuse for engaging in such behavior.

 

[Maca44]

Quite simply, I think a person who is unfaithful while travelling is also the type who would be unfaithful at home (and come up with other excuses for their missing time).

I agree. It doesn't matter where you are unfaithful, and it surprises me how people are prepared to risk everything they have at home for a one night stand. The grass is not greener on the other side.

 

[blueflamenco]

Depends where they travel. I worked with people in SE Asia who were angels at home but once let loose in the party environment they became totally different.

Not saying that is normal but simply my observation.

Good point, where people travel probably has a lot to do with it. Especially for those opportunists as opposed to a serial cheater. Maybe?!

 

[Fantic125]

With the amount I travel I do I'm normally knackered by the time I get through meetings, travel, etc. Therefore the last thing I want to do is actually talk to someone or have sex.

So, in response to the question; the amount of of sex when travelling; = zero.

 

[JohnK]

So, in response to the question; the amount of of sex when travelling; = zero.

How does your wife feel about you withholding sex when on holidays together?

 

[Sprucegoose]

is this a travel or a morals site??????????

 

[Must...Fly!]

is this a travel or a morals site??????????

Something to hide???

 

[JohnK]

is this a travel or a morals site??????????

Don't worry Sprucegoose. What happens on AFF stays on AFF.

 

[Fantic125]

How does your wife feel about you withholding sex when on holidays together?

Well, we've been married almost 20 years now, but have actually never had an overseas holiday together!
Having said that, we are heading off to the US for 3 weeks in August.
However our 15 y.o. daughter will be with us so I'm guessing the quota will still = zero! :shock:

 

[SFSC]

This is not exactly about road warrior sex on the road but some might find it partially on-topic anyway.

Many years ago I did an external uni course where part of the course requirements was attendance at a 4 day residential school on the NSW Northern tablelands. What went on there really opened my eyes! Was talking to one person at the communal college breakfast, who said:

Is this your first residential?.... When I went to my first school I had 3 one night stands...... I've been married for 17 years and my husband treats me like a doormat...... I intend to do another degree when I finish this one just for the residential schools...... Just about everyone who comes here has at least one fling.

Of course, I didn't look for her that night up at the uni bar but noticed she wasn't there

She did mention a good book about non-monogamy which was long out of print even then. I have read it ( "The Civilized Couple's Guide To Extramarital Adventure" by Albert Ellis ) since. An interesting read for anyone who can get hold of a copy.

Over the next few years I formed the opinion (by observing others of course :-| ) that these residential schools were like "a cruise without the boat".

I would be very surprised indeed if there weren't any cities people go to for work which have a similar feel to them.

 

[simongr]

With the amount I travel I do I'm normally knackered by the time I get through meetings, travel, etc. Therefore the last thing I want to do is actually talk to someone or have sex.

So, in response to the question; the amount of of sex when travelling; = zero.

I also think that most of the people I meet are in fact other blokes in suits - which is not exactly conducive to playing away from home.

I think the hardest thing is just the general strain it can put on a relationship being away so much.

 

[auriga]

I think frequent travel certainly presents more opportunities to be "naughty".

 

[munitalP]

I also think that most of the people I meet are in fact other blokes in suits - which is not exactly conducive to playing away from home.

I think the hardest thing is just the general strain it can put on a relationship being away so much.

Yep, and my last few years, them blokes (and lasses) were hairy mining types in orange shirts..! Up early, meetings, travel = drinks, dinner BED (for sleep!) only to start the process again the next day...

munitalP

 

[markis10]

Yep, and my last few years, them blokes (and lasses) were hairy mining types in orange shirts..! Up early, meetings, travel = drinks, dinner BED (for sleep!) only to start the process again the next day...

munitalP

Stop meeting people at the BNE/PER QP's

 

[mhen]

My observation is that away-from-home courses and conferences provide many with opportunity to be "naughty".

Like SFSC I too remember residential schools and the goings on! Many decades ago the uni-sex bathrooms in some of the residenial colleges were seen as quite risque.

I once worked with a man called Mr Smith who met a woman called Mrs Smith (no relation) at a conference and they started to meet up whenever their travel overlapped registering perfectly correctly in hotels as Mr and Mrs Smith!

 

[browski]

Whether you are unfaithful or not is irrelevant.
If you are away your partner will suspect you of being unfaithful anyway, it is only natural. So there will be stress in your relationship even if you are faithful.

Just mentioning to your partner that you are having an innocent good time (without her/him) will cause anxiety and resentment within your partner. That's why business travellers always tell their partners that they are hating their trips away.