Hi All,
Quick Background:
We travel where we can, its taken a back seat since my mums cancer diagnosis but her treatment is just for 1 more year (hopefully she gets the all clear). So I am hoping to have our wedding Feb or May 2016 (off season).
Had our engagement party the weekend after my BIL - to be's hens/bucks do, my MIL - to be tried to cancel the party 3 days before through a very horrible voicemail left on my partners phone because she had been rude to her DIL to be at her Hens night and didn't like people having noticed it. We moved out party (originally being held at their house) to a hall, which she then tried to cancel even though I had already paid and told my partner he was out of the family and would need to change his surname to mine. They came to the party as if nothing had happened. But they did ruin our party as best they could and my partner is still not over it. I cried for weeks but have moved on now.
These have today brought me to an Amazing Race idea. People will need to pay most of their own way. I am hoping $2000, to $2500. Flights, accommodation, hens, wedding, after party brunch or what ever and maybe an American event or two included. Vegas is obvious, I have been a few times before though. So then I thought maybe Cancun or similar, all inclusive resort for a few days as the hens/bucks - yes we will have them together. A few days somewhere relaxing thats not a party town, then a final location for the wedding.
My not quite thought through plan was to send out a wedding invite stating the dates and cost, and something very generic yet clever about it being a holiday trip, and leaving clues and such as time went on or at each new destination etc. So people won't know the destinations or activities until they arrive in each town. It is likely to be immediate family, maybe a friend each who would come, so under 20 people in total. Which is perfect for us.
I thought it might just be a bit more fun (or where ever, maybe Asia), its right up our alley in terms of how we generally give each other gifts and I am looking at cool things that might tie in, like the comicon convention or college sporting match which I think as an Australian would be awesome to go to. I'd say Super Bowl if it wasn't 20 grand a ticket, I do hear though that college games can be more exciting than the Super Bowl.
Is it s super selfish idea? No matter what we do, if we did something in Australia I see it costing people $500 (+ whatever gift if they give one) to come, which is more affordable but they don't get anything for that. We spent a fair few thousand this past weekend, and for their lead up events, for my BIL-to be's wedding and I'd probably have preferred to spend it going overseas. I know the events cost them a lot personally as well, but if everyone is paying for the wedding anyway (guests and hosts) why not put the money to better use?
I really do try to make short posts. I just don't know how. Sorry guys.
Quick Background:
We travel where we can, its taken a back seat since my mums cancer diagnosis but her treatment is just for 1 more year (hopefully she gets the all clear). So I am hoping to have our wedding Feb or May 2016 (off season).
Had our engagement party the weekend after my BIL - to be's hens/bucks do, my MIL - to be tried to cancel the party 3 days before through a very horrible voicemail left on my partners phone because she had been rude to her DIL to be at her Hens night and didn't like people having noticed it. We moved out party (originally being held at their house) to a hall, which she then tried to cancel even though I had already paid and told my partner he was out of the family and would need to change his surname to mine. They came to the party as if nothing had happened. But they did ruin our party as best they could and my partner is still not over it. I cried for weeks but have moved on now.
These have today brought me to an Amazing Race idea. People will need to pay most of their own way. I am hoping $2000, to $2500. Flights, accommodation, hens, wedding, after party brunch or what ever and maybe an American event or two included. Vegas is obvious, I have been a few times before though. So then I thought maybe Cancun or similar, all inclusive resort for a few days as the hens/bucks - yes we will have them together. A few days somewhere relaxing thats not a party town, then a final location for the wedding.
My not quite thought through plan was to send out a wedding invite stating the dates and cost, and something very generic yet clever about it being a holiday trip, and leaving clues and such as time went on or at each new destination etc. So people won't know the destinations or activities until they arrive in each town. It is likely to be immediate family, maybe a friend each who would come, so under 20 people in total. Which is perfect for us.
I thought it might just be a bit more fun (or where ever, maybe Asia), its right up our alley in terms of how we generally give each other gifts and I am looking at cool things that might tie in, like the comicon convention or college sporting match which I think as an Australian would be awesome to go to. I'd say Super Bowl if it wasn't 20 grand a ticket, I do hear though that college games can be more exciting than the Super Bowl.
Is it s super selfish idea? No matter what we do, if we did something in Australia I see it costing people $500 (+ whatever gift if they give one) to come, which is more affordable but they don't get anything for that. We spent a fair few thousand this past weekend, and for their lead up events, for my BIL-to be's wedding and I'd probably have preferred to spend it going overseas. I know the events cost them a lot personally as well, but if everyone is paying for the wedding anyway (guests and hosts) why not put the money to better use?
I really do try to make short posts. I just don't know how. Sorry guys.
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