Frequent travel & relationships

[Sprucegoose]

Don't worry Sprucegoose. What happens on AFF stays on AFF.

of course John, like some of my Rugby tours!!!!!!

 

[Sprucegoose]

Something to hide???

Yes plenty !!!!

What about yourself.......??

:evil::evil::evil:

 

[straitman]

I once worked with a man called Mr Smith who met a woman called Mrs Smith (no relation) at a conference and they started to meet up whenever their travel overlapped registering perfectly correctly in hotels as Mr and Mrs Smith!

They could make a movie with that name :!:

 

[straitman]

Whether you are unfaithful or not is irrelevant.
If you are away your partner will suspect you of being unfaithful anyway, it is only natural. So there will be stress in your relationship even if you are faithful.

Just mentioning to your partner that you are having an innocent good time (without her/him) will cause anxiety and resentment within your partner. That's why business travellers always tell their partners that they are hating their trips away.

I don't quite know whether to simply say rubbish or say I do not have that as an issue and then have to wonder about your personal relationship. :evil:

 

[Must...Fly!]

Yes plenty !!!!

What about yourself.......??

:evil::evil::evil:

the joys of being 19 and no relationship!!!!

 

[blueflamenco]

Whether you are unfaithful or not is irrelevant.
If you are away your partner will suspect you of being unfaithful anyway, it is only natural. So there will be stress in your relationship even if you are faithful.

Just mentioning to your partner that you are having an innocent good time (without her/him) will cause anxiety and resentment within your partner. That's why business travellers always tell their partners that they are hating their trips away.

I don't believe it is normal or natural for a partner to suspect that the travelling individual is unfaithful simply because they are away. I would think the issue is a fundamental lack of trust in ones partner.

When I'm away without my boyfriend and him without me we don't conceal the fact that we are having a good time and I don't believe he is unfaithful based on simply being away.

 

[blueflamenco]

I guess this all could depend upon what each individual defines as unfaithful... Some have mentioned sex. For others it could be something different.

 

[blueflamenco]

is this a travel or a morals site??????????

Travel.. Which is why I am interested in the thoughts of travelers and how frequent travel influences their relationships.

Apologies if you feel its out of line. Perhaps AFF is a little blokey after all.

 

[Mal]

I guess this all could depend upon what each individual defines as unfaithful... Some have mentioned sex. For others it could be something different.

And it is important to have that defined in a relationship. Then boundaries can be clearly crossed (or not crossed) and people know where they stand.

It saddens me at times when I'm away with blokes, and they don't know what their partner would and wouldn't appreciate them doing. Some guys choose to "do it anyway", others "nah I don't know. I'd better call", and others just go "Not going to do it".

BTW, in case anyone is wondering, the above paragraph is about deciding whether to eat at McDonald's or not (Bet I fooled many people here )

Ok, back on topic. There are certain times where a partner may be "more" encouraged to stray. But I still think it's important that the boundaries are set and they consciously know what they are doing. (Or unconsciously are doing if it's a very heavily booze fueled event! )

 

[Hvr]

Of course being a frequent traveller can be a hinderance to actually forming a relationship. It can be a selfish life and hard to give up, so unless the other person shares your interest then you are behind the eight ball from the beginning.

 

[dot]

I watched Up in the Air again last night which got me thinking about travel and relationships.

Do you think frequent travel increases the likelihood that one will be unfaithful?

I am interested in peoples thoughts!

When I watched "Up in the Air" - on a flight of course! - the thing that struck me was not being unfaithful (since George Clooney's character was unattached, although his female friend was being unfaithful to her husband), but how lonely he was and difficult relationships are to keep alive and healthy when one partner or both travel a lot. It is an issue that I think about a bit. This year, I have been away from home 60% of the time and I have a wife and two young kids at home. It's hard on all of them and on me. I wish there was an easy answer to the problem, but like most of us, there are complications that make such simplistic answers unrealistic. If anyone has suggestions on how you make relationships last under continued travel strain, I would be happy to hear them!

BTW - All my travel is for work and I can't afford to take my family with me, not to mention the disruption that would cause with their lives as well...

 

[Mal]

When I watched "Up in the Air" - on a flight of course! - the thing that struck me was not being unfaithful (since George Clooney's character was unattached, although his female friend was being unfaithful to her husband), but how lonely he was and difficult relationships are to keep alive and healthy when one partner or both travel a lot.

You are right. "Up in the Air" was about a cheating woman who enjoyed affairs while on the road, yet didn't want commitment from those she played with.

Really a perceived reverse role in society, where people expect the male to be the 'player' and him not wanting commitment. But women play just as much as men (in different ways), so perhaps a correct portrayal.

BTW - if you watched "Up in the Air" on CX (and perhaps other airlines) - you got a 'censored' version. (Pathetic considering the bit they cut out).

 

[pauly7]

It's interesting..... A few people I work
and travel with do it....loosely anchored in the belief that if 'it' happens in a different postcode it doesn't count!.....

I don't like judging people but personally not for me.

 

[munitalP]

@Straitman, I agree. I have been basically away from home working for more than 18 years, I have been married for 17 of them. Although my longest stay away is only about 3 weeks (Sweden), it is pretty darn easy to "keep it in your pants", regardless of the situation.
I tell Mrs munitalP who I go out with, in my line of work, plenty of dinners are had with fellow engineers, some male, some female, but I don't hide this from Mrs munitalP, what's the point? Business is business and personal is personal, there's a very defined line in the sand that is not crossed except for organised social activities such as Xmas parties and the like.

I also have a female PA and until recently a female administrator who some weeks I could spend more time with in person than my wife, but again, it's business and the line is never crossed.

I feel sorry for anyone who's relationship has undertones of suspision and trust issues

munitalP

 

[markis10]

I want to know where people get the time, when I travel I am busy doing meetings all day then catching up on the work I missed by not being in the office at night, I have more leisure time at home. If I did have more time on the road, I would not be spending it in bed, but exploring a city that is not my home!

 

[DeKa]

I watched Up in the Air again last night which got me thinking about travel and relationships.

Do you think frequent travel increases the likelihood that one will be unfaithful?

I am interested in peoples thoughts!

I don't think so.. for me anyway. I watched Up In The Air on a plane like a number of the other posters, and I agree with some other respondents in that when I am travelling for work I am so tired all I do is sleep.

 

[auriga]

Wow, everyone is so well behaved here!:mrgreen:

 

[nlagalle]

I don't think so.. for me anyway. I watched Up In The Air on a plane like a number of the other posters, and I agree with some other respondents in that when I am travelling for work I am so tired all I do is sleep.

I do the same.. Especially on the first day I am usually asleep watching TV by 8.30pm! I work flat out when I am away, no real downtime.

 

[Flashback]

I must say I'm quite shocked at some of the responses here. In my opinion, anyone who does anything "just because they're away" gets a big thumbs down from me. :evil:

I think frequent travel certainly presents more opportunities to be "naughty".

No more than having an "active social life" would.

I guess this all could depend upon what each individual defines as unfaithful... Some have mentioned sex. For others it could be something different.

I agree. Cheating doesn't always have to be physical, it can be emotional also.

As always, YMMV.
:evil::evil:

 

[drron]

Having read this thread i paid attention in the Hilton KL lounge tonight.Amazing how many fathers were there with their daughters!:shock: