General Parenting Discussion

[JessicaTam]

There has been an increase in the discussion of children and parenting related topics of late. So this thread is to provide a place to allow the conversation to ebb and flow unhindered.

Note that specific travel related parenting/children discussion should still be posted in the appropriate travel related fora.

 

[blackcat20]

Nasty Salmonella issue here in Adelaide linked to Banh Mie. Either the pate or the pork. 11 people in hospital ranging from 11 - 64 years so not elderly. And also heard of a 24 year old girl here having a Martini that had whisked egg white. She was desperately ill and in hospital for days and lost 6 kilos in the process, and risked organ damage. I’m thinking the egg crisis in the US - only having hard cooked eggs - might be relevant now.

This is why I've been avoiding them.....

 

[Pushka]

This is why I've been avoiding them.....

And very wise. Fingers crossed DIL hears about it. She’s a GP so hopefully she listens to her own advice I’m thinking.

Now that I have your attention BC, her friends (your age) have said dumb things like she should now stop running. She runs Marathons from time to time so it’s not a new thing for her. She knows she can’t run marathons but she does like running. She’s sensible. I would have thought it would be oldies like me with the numpty advice but I think she needs to run as it is a stress reducer for her as she now doesn’t drink alcohol (just the odd sip). So the reactions from her friends have really surprised me and made her second guess herself which is a shame. She’s currently working in palliative care and finding that obviously very challenging so she needs an outlet. I’m about to go buy her a Pregnancy massage voucher from Endota.

Did your friends give you unwelcome advice?

 

[blackcat20]

And very wise. Fingers crossed DIL hears about it. She’s a GP so hopefully she listens to her own advice I’m thinking.

Now that I have your attention BC, her friends (your age) have said dumb things like she should now stop running. She runs Marathons from time to time so it’s not a new thing for her. She knows she can’t run marathons but she does like running. She’s sensible. I would have thought it would be oldies like me with the numpty advice but I think she needs to run as it is a stress reducer for her as she now doesn’t drink alcohol (just the odd sip). So the reactions from her friends have really surprised me and made her second guess herself which is a shame. She’s currently working in palliative care and finding that obviously very challenging so she needs an outlet. I’m about to go buy her a Pregnancy massage voucher from Endota.

Did your friends give you unwelcome advice?

Everyone has advice, I just go with the nod and smile approach, then carry on. My OB says continuing to exercise is fine if it is what you were doing before, but no aiming for a PB and don't get overheated or push the heart rate too high. I've continued to do weights, yoga, body balance and cycle, just adjusting where necessary.

 

[Denali]

I remember my best friend basically squatted on a tiny stool for her entire pregnancy for every meal, watching tv, reading ect as her birth plan was to squat during labour.

She ended up giving birth standing up, leaning on those big exercise balls that was on the bed. She walked at least 10klms every day.

 

[Flying mermaid]

Everyone has advice, I just go with the nod and smile approach, then carry on. My OB says continuing to exercise is fine if it is what you were doing before, but no aiming for a PB and don't get overheated or push the heart rate too high. I've continued to do weights, yoga, body balance and cycle, just adjusting where necessary.

you just wait until you have had the Bub - advice ratchets up even more

 

[blackcat20]

you just wait until you have had the Bub - advice ratchets up even more

Can't wait

 

[Hvr]

you just wait until you have had the Bub - advice ratchets up even more

Can't wait

Methinks you're going to enjoy telling a few people to practise using an accounting package and MYOB.

 

[Pushka]

you just wait until you have had the Bub - advice ratchets up even more

The annoying thing is that I have completely withheld from giving any advice yet others presume it’s their right.

Anyways just dropped off a massage voucher to their place as I know she enjoys those. They aren’t home. I’m roaming today. We have power off all day for planned maintenance. Again.

 

[blackcat20]

The annoying thing is that I have completely withheld from giving any advice yet others presume it’s their right.

Anyways just dropped off a massage voucher to their place as I know she enjoys those. They aren’t home. I’m roaming today. We have power off all day for planned maintenance. Again.

oooh jealous, I'd give almost anything for a good massage now. Making do with physio at the moment.

 

[Quickstatus]

And very wise. Fingers crossed DIL hears about it. She’s a GP so hopefully she listens to her own advice I’m thinking.

Now that I have your attention BC, her friends (your age) have said dumb things like she should now stop running. She runs Marathons from time to time so it’s not a new thing for her. She knows she can’t run marathons but she does like running. She’s sensible. I would have thought it would be oldies like me with the numpty advice but I think she needs to run as it is a stress reducer for her as she now doesn’t drink alcohol (just the odd sip). So the reactions from her friends have really surprised me and made her second guess herself which is a shame. She’s currently working in palliative care and finding that obviously very challenging so she needs an outlet. I’m about to go buy her a Pregnancy massage voucher from Endota.

Did your friends give you unwelcome advice?

Everyone is an expert when it comes to pregnancies. The inference is that your pregnancy is going to be exactly the same as theirs.

Old wives tales still exist

 

[Quickstatus]

Look up "postpartum confinement". Much cultural variability.

But in the days of old, these 'old wives tales' were a distillation of beliefs, religion, custom, and experience. Sometimes they make sense other times, they should be discarded but overall, viewed in a positive light, and if they do no harm, they can be a grounding/reference point for your own personal journey.

 

[Hvr]

Old wives tales still exist

As do old wives.

 

[Pushka]

Everyone is an expert when it comes to pregnancies. The inference is that your pregnancy is going to be exactly the same as theirs.

Old wives tales still exist

But it’s the young ones who are spreading them. Us old wives aren’t to blame here.

 

[JohnK]

you just wait until you have had the Bub - advice ratchets up even more

Advice never stops which for this old codger is greatly appreciated.

Now if someone has a sure fire way to get my daughter to sleep before midnight, I'm listening. Almost 2:00am every night.

 

[Flying mermaid]

Advice never stops which for this old codger is greatly appreciated.

Now if someone has a sure fire way to get my daughter to sleep before midnight, I'm listening. Almost 2:00am every night.

dont ask me - I was a total failure. Although I didn’t have a problem getting them to sleep, it’s just they always woke up all through the night. 8.5 years of broken sleep.

I was told the brighter they are, the less they sleep. Don’t know if it’s true, but it was some consolation.

Does she still sleep during the day? I found cutting out daytime sleeping helped them to go to bed earlier. Also keeping to a set routine.

 

[JohnK]

I was told the brighter they are, the less they sleep. Don’t know if it’s true, but it was some consolation.

Does she still sleep during the day? I found cutting out daytime sleeping helped them to go to bed earlier. Also keeping to a set routine.

She sleeps 2-3 hours during the day. Cutting out daytime sleep doesn't work either.

Day care twice a week may fix these issues.

 

[QF WP]

We still play soft music (or the sound of surf, or rainforest noises on a CD) in my daughters bedroom every night (she's 12). Works like a charm within minutes. She's always been a good sleeper but now with Grade 7 homework every night, she needs time to calm her mind.

My son is different (aged 9). A red night light does the trick (sometimes), but he prefers somebody to sit with him, with parental touch until he falls asleep. That only happens sporadically.

Both get to read in bed for 10-15 minutes before 8pm. They also have sport training (AFL) during the week - that work every time. Heads hit pillows and eyes shut almost immediately after a full meal needing digestion.

The parental responsibility period finishes at 8pm every night (and the kitchen closes at 7.30pm). Out of hours requests ignored. We're the bosses. Time for a drink and relax whilst watching a TV program, before Mrs QF WP either hits the sewing machine or laptop (if either of us have work to do). If no work, surfing the net and AFF for me. Children need and want direction.

 

[Pushka]

Advice never stops which for this old codger is greatly appreciated.

Now if someone has a sure fire way to get my daughter to sleep before midnight, I'm listening. Almost 2:00am every night.

Your first comment is funny.

Your last - I feel your pain.

Are you making it too exciting for her before she goes to bed? Long naps too late in the day?

 

[drron]

dont ask me - I was a total failure. Although I didn’t have a problem getting them to sleep, it’s just they always woke up all through the night. 8.5 years of broken sleep.

I was told the brighter they are, the less they sleep. Don’t know if it’s true, but it was some consolation.

Does she still sleep during the day? I found cutting out daytime sleeping helped them to go to bed earlier. Also keeping to a set routine.

Well we think our son is bright and he slept through from one month old.
The brightest of our 3 grandchildren is the best sleeper of the 3 and always has been.
But they may be the exceptions that proves the rule.