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[blackcat20]

Trying to find someone to babysit our dogs for three weeks as mum is refusing to deal with them while we're away

 

[Denali]

Trying to find someone to babysit our dogs for three weeks as mum is refusing to deal with them while we're away

And its only been about 2 months since you moved in?

Sorry but....

I hope you find someone to care for your dogs.

 

[Milboo]

Trying to find someone to babysit our dogs for three weeks as mum is refusing to deal with them while we're away

Not fun, especially as you are ruled out from finding a housesitter. But I think them being elsewhere is the best option for you and them - you won't stress about their interactions with her dog and they won't be put into situations where they can get attacked, if you're not there to manage the interactions.

I need a housesitter for close to 4 weeks in November (work conference + side trip) and need to get on to that now

 

[love_the_life]

Trying to find someone to babysit our dogs for three weeks as mum is refusing to deal with them while we're away

Just the dogs? Is she happy to look after Bella puss?

If it comes to it, you may need to investigate kennels for when you are away.

 

[blackcat20]

And its only been about 2 months since you moved in?

Sorry but....

I hope you find someone to care for your dogs.

Helpful, particularly as her dog is the aggressor

 

[blackcat20]

Just the dogs? Is she happy to look after Bella puss?

If it comes to it, you may need to investigate kennels for when you are away.

Actually just Daisy. She wants to keep Lola which I've said no to. The dogs are a team and stay together.

 

[Denali]

Helpful, particularly as her dog is the aggressor

I know its her dog but its also her house - so even though the adults are co existing ok together, there is a deep, dark part of your mum that might not admit it but shes counting down till when she can have her house back to herself.

I hope it goes quickly for you - that house cant be build soon enough.

 

[blackcat20]

I know its her dog but its also her house - so even though the adults are co existing ok together, there is a deep, dark part of your mum that might not admit it but shes counting down till when she can have her house back to herself.

I hope it goes quickly for you - that house cant be build soon enough.

Actually its not her house either. Yes the dog is defending its territory (ie mum), but beyond what you would consider reasonable (as in, having fingers ripped open requiring doctors visits and injections, dogs having pieces torn out of them requiring vet visits, injections and ongoing medication). Which is why I've engaged a trainer, but improving the situation requires her to acknowledge that her dog has issues and actively work on them.
Saying "I told you so" (and what exactly did you tell me?) is the least helpful response I've had from anyone during what has been quite a stressful time for everyone.

 

[Denali]

Actually its not her house either. Yes the dog is defending its territory (ie mum), but beyond what you would consider reasonable (as in, having fingers ripped open requiring doctors visits and injections, dogs having pieces torn out of them requiring vet visits, injections and ongoing medication). Which is why I've engaged a trainer, but improving the situation requires her to aknowledge that her dog has issues and actively work on them.
Saying "I told you so" (and what exactly did you tell me?) is the least helpful response I've had from anyone during what has been quite a stressful time for everyone.

Im sorry, obviously my attempt of humor didnt transpose across.

As you asked "what exactly did I tell you", I mentioned a few times that having all these adults and their dogs and cat move into the one place was going to be difficult for all and eventually it can do long term damage to your relationship. I truly hope it doesnt but the odds arent good, considering what youre already going through with the dogs and expense.

I hope you get doggy care soon and the trainer works out.

 

[Flying mermaid]

Trying to find someone to babysit our dogs for three weeks as mum is refusing to deal with them while we're away

we have the grandpuppies for 2.5 weeks while Ms FM is away. This is them playing tug of war - our dog (the dachshund) won. It is quite a lot of work, but we do love them. I am looking forward to handing them back on Tuesday and getting back to the normal routine with our two

edit - oh dear upside down!

 

[Denali]

.....our dog (the dachshund) won. ...

Ive read that dachshunds are very stubborn and hard to toilet train - is that true?

 

[blackcat20]

Im sorry, obviously my attempt of humor didnt transpose across.

As you asked "what exactly did I tell you", I mentioned a few times that having all these adults and their dogs and cat move into the one place was going to be difficult for all and eventually it can do long term damage to your relationship. I truly hope it doesnt but the odds arent good, considering what youre already going through with the dogs and expense.

I hope you get doggy care soon and the trainer works out.

There's a reason forums have emojis; its hard to read thing the intent without them, especially when one is stressed...

Yes its hard, we knew it would be. But the dogs had all hung out with each other for weeks on end multiple times without problems. The dogs were meant to be staying there long before we knew we'd be moving there, and we did not anticipate that one dog would escalate behaviour to that extent. Fortunately one of the girls at work has offered to have them in exchange for wine, which is a relief (pending her other half being ok with it).

I just feel cough for our dogs, because they aren't happy, and its not their fault at all.

 

[love_the_life]

Actually just Daisy. She wants to keep Lola which I've said no to. The dogs are a team and stay together.

Yes, I wondered if it was only poor Miss D. But, if Daisy needs to go to kennels (or to anywhere different) while you are away, I would've thought Lola would be good for company for her and help alleviate any stress of being somewhere strange.

Fortunately one of the girls at work has offered to have them in exchange for wine, which is a relief (pending her other half being ok with it).
I just feel cough for our dogs, because they arent happy, and its not their fault at all.

I only just got down to the last quote. That sounds good for while you are away. And even if it is good wine, it will be well worth it! When are you off? (as in will the dogs have time to visit her a few times before you go).

I just thought of something, can you encourage your mother to go on a nice long holiday and while she is away, get in some serious training for her dog? It might sound silly but it could work.

 

[love_the_life]

we have the grandpuppies for 2.5 weeks while Ms FM is away. This is them playing tug of war - our dog (the dachshund) won. It is quite a lot of work, but we do love them. I am looking forward to handing them back on Tuesday and getting back to the normal routine with our two
edit - oh dear upside down!

It's OK, I just stood on my head
Are they beagles - ooh they can be a handful and two of them to boot!

 

[donovan301]

Just get one of these, they'll take care of themselves for Sure

 

[Denali]

There's a reson forums have emojis; its hard to read thing the intent without them, especially when one is stressed...

Yes its hard, we knew it would be. But the dogs had all hung out with each other for weeks on end multiple times without problems. The dogs were meant to be staying there long before we knew we'd be moving there, and we did not anticipate that one dog would escalate behaviour to that extent. Fortunately one of the girls at work has offered to have them in exchange for wine, which is a relief (pending her other half being ok with it).

I just feel cough for our dogs, because they aren't happy, and its not their fault at all.

Sorry again, you're right, my post did not help or add humor at all and that hurt you more in this situation.

 

[Flying mermaid]

It's OK, I just stood on my head
Are they beagles - ooh they can be a handful and two of them to boot!

yes Beagles. Absolutely beautifully natured dogs, but very naughty. They are so food focused! I am already in trouble with Ms FM as she says they are putting on too much weight from the photos I sent her. I tried cutting down their dinner yesterday and they started robbing the bin. I reckon she can put them on diet when she comes back . Fortunately our two established their dominance when the Beagles were puppies, so no problems with our little pack.

 

[blackcat20]

Yes, I wondered if it was only poor Miss D. But, if Daisy needs to go to kennels (or to anywhere different) while you are away, I would've thought Lola would be good for company for her and help alleviate any stress of being somewhere strange.



I only just got down to the last quote. That sounds good for while you are away. And even if it is good wine, it will be well worth it! When are you off? (as in will the dogs have time to visit her a few times before you go).

I just thought of something, can you encourage your mother to go on a nice long holiday and while she is away, get in some serious training for her dog? It might sound silly but it could work.

Yes, I'm very determined to keep them together, particularly as Daisy was added to the family to help Lola (and me) get over the loss of Millie. August 5 we go. And definitely worth a good bottle of wine, that's for sure.

Haha possibly; without sounding mean, I think she is the root of the problem in that the dog considers mum hers, and therefore is trying to fight off the competition, and shes always been allowed to get away with it.
Was interesting listening mum tell the trainer that she didn't know which dog bit her when it was very clearly hers as I was holding Daisy at the time...We've been treading very lightly but its hard not to defend poor Daisy when she cops the blame. I think the training can definitely work but its going to take all three of us working at it. We've also been told to get some dog pheromone thing (Adaptil) to see if that helps calm everyone down.

Just get one of these, they'll take care of themselves for Sure
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Haha Lola is our cat dog. I think its the Chihuahua in her, she's pretty convinced she's a cat.

 

[Flying mermaid]

Ive read that dachshunds are very stubborn and hard to toilet train - is that true?

very, very stubborn, but will do anything for food and love. I haven't found them hard to toilet train, but then I have never had anything else to compare with - life long dachshund owner. They are personality plus, but do things on their own terms.

 

[Deleted member]

There's a reason forums have emojis; its hard to read thing the intent without them, especially when one is stressed...

Yes its hard, we knew it would be. But the dogs had all hung out with each other for weeks on end multiple times without problems. The dogs were meant to be staying there long before we knew we'd be moving there, and we did not anticipate that one dog would escalate behaviour to that extent. Fortunately one of the girls at work has offered to have them in exchange for wine, which is a relief (pending her other half being ok with it).

I just feel cough for our dogs, because they aren't happy, and its not their fault at all.

Wine solves all problems